In short: there is no single Buddhist wedding. In many cultures the legal marriage is civil, and couples add a blessing with monks, chanting, offerings and merit-making. Guests should dress modestly, follow the family's lead and treat the blessing with respect.
Common elements
- Monks chant protective verses and give a blessing.
- Couples may take refuge and the five precepts. See taking refuge.
- Offerings and dana, and sharing merit with ancestors.
- Vows of care and respect: Buddhist wedding vows.
For guests
Dress modestly, remove shoes when entering a shrine room and do not touch the monks. See temple etiquette and how to address monks.
Together: together in the next life? · the Sigalovada Sutta on family
Questions people ask
Do Buddhists have wedding ceremonies?
Buddhism does not prescribe a religious wedding; the legal ceremony is usually civil. Many couples add a blessing with monks, taking refuge, chanting and merit-making.
What do monks do at a wedding?
They often chant protective verses and give a blessing, but traditionally they do not officiate the marriage itself.
What should guests wear?
Modest, smart clothes in cheerful but not showy colours. Check with the family; customs vary by culture.